#BlogTour #OneThousandDaysandOneCupofTea #VanessaMoore #OctopusPublishing #KyleBooks #RandomThingsTours

One Thousand Days and One Cup of Tea

A Clinical Psychologist’s Experience of Grief

Vanessa Moore

Keynote

A heartbreaking grief memoir, One Thousand Days and One Cup of Tea uncovers the process of healing from a personal and psychological view, written by a bereaved clinical psychologist.

Description

Vanessa's husband Paul dies suddenly and tragically on their regular Sunday morning swim.

How will she cope with her dilapidated house, her teenage children, the patients who depend on her? Will therapy help? Why do mysterious white feathers start appearing in unexpected places?

As a clinical psychologist, Vanessa Moore is used to providing therapy and guidance for her patients. But as she tries to work out how to survive the trauma that has derailed her life, she begins to understand her profession from the other side. Like her, many of her patients were faced with life events they hadn't been expecting - a child born with a disability or life-limiting illness, a sudden bereavement, divorce, failure - and it is their struggles and stories of resilience and bravery that begin to help her process her own personal loss.

Taking us through her journey towards recovery as she navigates the world of dating and tries to seek the right therapy, Vanessa uses her professional skills to explore the many questions posed by unanticipated death and find a way forwards. Beautifully written and honestly relayed, One Thousand Days and One Cup of Tea is a heartbreaking grief memoir of the process of healing experienced as both a bereaved wife and clinical psychologist.

"This book is about a period of great loss in my life, a time when the tables were completely turned on me. I was a qualified therapist who suddenly found myself needing psychological therapy. I was a trained researcher who became my own research subject, as I tried to make sense of what was happening to me. I was an experienced manager who now struggled to manage the events taking place in my own life. Yet, throughout all this turmoil, my patients were always there, in the background, reminding me that there are many different ways to deal with loss and trauma and search for a way forwards." Vanessa Moore

Amazon

Sales Points

• Some 800,000 women lose their spouses each year in the UK. Statistically, women are far more likely to be widowed and far less likely to remarry than men.

• The popularity of memoirs has increased by almost 50% in the last year (Google Trends).

• A study done by Amerispeak found that 57% of Americans are grieving the loss of someone close to them over the last three years.

• According to Child Bereavement Uk, a parent of children under 18 dies every 22 minutes in the UK; around 23,600 a year. This equates to around 111 children being bereaved of a parent every day.

• 1 in 29 5-16 year olds has been bereaved of a parent or sibling - that's a child in every average class.

Vanessa Moore is a clinical psychologist. She studied Psychology at the University of Bristol, gained her PhD in Experimental Psychology from University College London and trained as a clinical psychologist at the Institute of Psychiatry. She has had a long career in the NHS working in clinical, teaching, research and senior management roles. She specialised in working with children and families early in her career and she has published extensively in academic journals, mainly in the field of child psychology.

One Thousand Days and One Cup of Tea

By

Vanessa Moore

Review 

By

Heidi Lynn’s Book Reviews

First, I want to thank Vanessa Moore, Octopus Publishing, Kyle Books and Random Things Tours for providing me with this book so I may bring you this review. 

Vanessa Moore and her patients are very brave in opening up and sharing their very personal experiences with her readers in One Thousand Days and One Cup of Tea. The stories shared in this book were very heartbreaking, eye opening and very powerful. Many experiences shared I could relate to on some wavelength and others pulled on my heartstrings big time. 

One thing that was very unique about this book was Vanessa explained to her readers how to use this Ebook. Never have I come across this as a book reviewer. For those who are new to Ebooks this explanation is extremely helpful and educational too. 

Vanessa’s preface was very beautifully written and straight from her heart to her readers. 

In each chapter Vanessa used a quote from someone well known that was relevant to the topic in that chapter. 

Vanessa’s book addresses a lot of very important topics such as untimely death, loss of a parent and a spouse, dealing with grief, Autism, attachment disorder, depression, terminal lung cancer, alcoholism, etc.

The first chapter Tsunami pulled hardcore on my heartstrings as I felt all the feelings Vanessa was feeling! I was fuming at the medical staff and the reception how they were handling the situation as well. This chapter was very written with a lot of emotion and intensity behind it. My heart broke for Vanessa who lost her husband Paul! I can’t imagine the pain that it caused her. I am hoping by writing this book it was therapeutic for her and possibly help others that went through similar situations. 

Vanessa does educate us with some facts and statistics on spousal death. 

I smiled when I read that Vanessa would get white feathers when she thought of Paul. It was a sign from him. For me Butterflies are my symbol of rebirth. Whenever I think of my late Gram who is my guardian angel I see a Butterfly. 

Vanessa’s sister had such a beautiful and unique name I had never seen before-Bryony.

I can totally relate to Vanessa’s experiences on online dating! So many pictures of guys on the dating sites are so unflattering! Then you have the other’s that just want a sexual hookup! She had some very interesting dates! I don’t blame her for getting off the dating websites as I did as well. 

I loved how Vanessa ran a support group for parents of preschool children who were newly diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Her experience running this group and the patients she had were very interesting to read. She had empathy and compassion for these children. I have worked with children in the past with this diagnosis and know first hand how sweet, adorable and smart they are.